If a random visitor came to our world,
it would probably be relatively easy to notice that people from all parts of the world,
try their hardest to impress each other.
After-all, it's part of human nature to want to be liked and to be social.
If anyone knows me, or has even read some of my posts from before, they know that my life motto is meeting people, building unlimited connections, & living to be happy with others. This is my deepest life motto and the one that means the most to me. I try to be the very definition of a 'Social Butterfly'. I sincerely believe that life is truly what you make it; with that said, thus, I believe that my life is at it's happiest point when I have those of things that you can't physically see or touch - the memories, bonds, and experiences.
I love to make people happy, it doesn't matter how far out of my way I have to go. With that being said, you don't have to be a new-age genius to figure out I'm a 'people-pleaser'. Some say that being a 'people-pleaser' is bad because you're fishing for attention. I promise you, that's not my end goal, and that will never get you anywhere you wish to be. I'm sure that everyone has heard at one point or another, you can't please everyone in the world... But lets save that for later.
Only a very select few people know this; but while it looks like I've been radiating this strong coat of confidence, or even that I'm put together most of the time - it wasn't until a few weeks ago that a revelation hit me to find and sport my true sense of confidence. I've #always been very nervous to do/say things around people in fear of them thinking I'm weird, or making the atmosphere awkward. As a result, I tended to hide my real thoughts on things or the wacky or whimsical tendencies I portrayed. Aloof to myself, I was subconsciously people-pleasing by hiding the authenticity that was me. Granted, it worked, but I wasn't genuinely confident and my anxiety at it's best was temperamental. It was really ironic for being a 'social butterfly'.
Whilst I was in Italy, and walking the streets of Florence one evening, I was walking by myself, so naturally I had lots of time to think. This night, I had a revelation, a palpable change of sense. It hit me... if people don't like you for a trait or for something you like, that's not something you should be concerned about because that's just one less person you have to worry about. You shouldn't have to hide your silly, nerdy, or altruistic self because of someone else' opinion. The people that know that you love to watch all seven Harry Potter movies at once, or that you have a Deathly Hallows necklace from the movie; or getting excited when the seeds you planted start to grow; are who you should truly be worried about and be happy with. These people should be in your circle. These are the people that will watch all the movies with you and be silly with you about ridiculous things. 
Yes, I love Harry Potter a whole lot. Yes, I love to grow plants and get excited when vegetables/fruit result. Yes, I absolutely love chemistry memes, and really just memes in general. Ask me anything about Nutrition or health and I'll tell you, and if I don't know the answer, I'll look it up. I couldn't go throughout the day without my bracelets, necklaces, and rings I wear, because they all have a special meaning to me about a person or specific memory. I have an addiction to Starbucks frappuccinos. I listen to all sorts of music, even if it is sung by the Spice Girls or T Swizzy; if it's catchy, more than likely, I will have it. I have an abnormal obsession for The Kappa Sigma Fraternity and for the University of Michigan. I am a freak for Social Media; I probably have an account on almost every social media site available. I easily have a different pair of aviators for every occasion. I should probably have my own VIP table at Applebee's by now because I go so much. ----- These things are a lot of who I am, and I'm damn proud to own every one of them.
Nobody has to like you, and everyone probably won't like you. That doesn't mean that you should realize this and start being mean to the public. It just means that everyone is different from you, and some people will be exact opposites, and you just won't get along with them. That's fine, you just keep flowing on throughout life and be happy to meet the next person that comes along. There are an indefinite amount of people in this world for you to encounter, to be sad about one other person not liking who you are. You are who you are and who you are ever going to be. Nobody should ever influence you to be someone else. #Always have confidence in yourself and what you do.
Be proud of who you are
and what you do - because that is you.
Live free. Be kind.
Stay loyal. Smile often.
#Always
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